Relationships God i hate dating?

I am dating a woman who searched me out, we are in our 40s, we fell in love and everything seemed to be fine. She started menopause and then things has gotten very interesting. I was staying with her thru the week, she asked if i could stay at my place thru the week and come on the weekends she felt smothered and was getting irritated with little things i did. I understand her feelings and I have done so. Its very hard to trust these days because people are not as honorable as they once were so a guy like me who has been burnt allot gets nervous. I spoke to her about the situation how I felt and what i thought. She said she wasn't sure she could give me the attention I required that I was a handful in that department, i wasn't sure where this came from however i listened the best a man can lol. She said that she wanted to see if she would miss me but she hasn't had the chance because she has been so busy at work, I can say that she has a very very stressful position. I do love this lady and would love to have something however I am unsure if this is all stemming from a menopause thing, another guy or a game. any input would be great I just don't want to play games, I am a nice guy (truly am and know the meaning of such) just don't know.